Today I’m sharing with you something I put together for my children, to help them deal with the curve balls life will inevitably lob their way.
No matter how grown up or responsible you are, there will be moments when you feel like a helpless bystander in an out-of-control world.
My last post was about the greatest gift you can give yourself. Today I want to talk about gifts you can give others that will cost you nothing but will mean the world to those receiving it. And as with all heartfelt gifts, they will leave you feeling happier, healthier and more fulfilled.
The greatest gift you can give yourself if to become self-centred.
“What?” I hear you say. “Isn’t that the same as selfish? How’s that a good thing?”
Being self centred is about going deep within yourself & taking ownership of all your choices & actions. It’s about understanding that everything you need & want can be found within you. It means that even change around you begins with you.
I’m not a fan of labels. Literally and metaphorically speaking. I’d be hard pushed to tell you what brand of trainers I wear, or what make my kettle or iron is. To me they serve a purpose, and so long as they do it well, I don’t care what names they goes by. The same logic applies to individuals.
Over time we attribute labels to ourselves based on what we do for a living, our current abilities and the perception we and others have of who we are. These labels can colour our self-esteem and become our limitations.
Over the recent school half term break, my son and I travelled to India to spend time with close family and friends. An unexpected benefit was a whole week spent with hardly a mention of Brexit in the news. Bliss. I had many memorable experiences but I want to share just one with you today.
It’s that time of year when mental health is in the spotlight. We are reminded of how anxious we have become as a society. Age appears to be no barrier with young people just as badly afflicted.
The feelings of anxiety might have complex roots but can be triggered by small day to day interactions. Anything ranging from a flippant comment on social media, to a non-committal reply to an important email, to stony silence from a significant other or romantic interest can push us into varying depths of anguish, rage or despair.