The secret to mental wellbeing

It's that time of year when mental health is in the spotlight.  We are reminded of how anxious we have become as a society.  Age appears to be no barrier with young people just as badly afflicted.  

The feelings of anxiety might have complex roots but can be triggered by small day to day interactions.  Anything ranging from a flippant comment on social media, to a non-committal reply to an important email, to stony silence from a significant other or romantic interest can push us into varying depths of anguish, rage or despair.

There are broadly two sources of anxiety.  The first comes from being stuck in the past, and the second from worrying about the future.  Both rob us of the thing that matters most: the present.  After all, it is in this present moment we are creating both our past and our future.  What you do today will tomorrow become your past and will also lay the foundations for your future.

On the occasion of Mental Health Awareness Day, I was invited to do a talk at a global financial firm in the City of London.  The topic of my talk is Conscious Self Awareness.  When we become aware of who we are, why we do what we do and what's possible for us, life takes on a whole new meaning.  It can change how we see ourselves, and how we show up in the world.  

Mental wellbeing is never created in isolation.  In fact, loneliness is one of the most common reasons for depression, especially in people who have become socially isolated.  We must take ownership or our own personal wellbeing, but we are also responsible for how we make others we interact with feel.  

I did a webinar earlier this year on how to deal with "difficult' people.  Whether it's in your workplace or in your personal life, it helps to be proactive and prepared.  It also helps to spot energy vampires, narcissists and psychopaths early on, before they have a detrimental effect on your mental health.

Being in a nurturing ecosystem in the company of people who make us feel acknowledged, validated and valued can do wonders for our mental health.  Discover who you are and what makes you thrive.  And then find the people who will enable you live into your purpose, doing the things you love and making a difference.  That is the secret to true mental wealth.