Living with Alcoholism – the Final Chapter

Alcoholism takes many prisoners, most of whom are not even drinking. It comes with many social taboos and deep seated shame. I am sharing my family’s story today because I believe we need to look at the topic of alcoholism with greater compassion and openness.I offer a glimpse into the internal conflict that families of alcoholics face every single day. I am hoping it will spark a conversation and invite greater compassion for alcoholics and for those who have to live with them.

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What’s in your backpack?

We’re all backpackers in this journey of life, so busy getting somewhere that we don’t have the time to put the backpack down. Not even to take a look inside it to see what’s really there. No wonder we feel like we’re carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. What if there was a simple way to unburden yourself and live a full and free life?

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Silence, Stillness and Surrender

I recently spent ten days at a silent meditation retreat called Vipassana. It was intense and interesting, and like nothing I have ever experienced before. Whilst it was fresh in my mind, I shared my experience in a free flowing conversation with an old friend of mine. We talked about what Vipassana is, what I observed and experienced, the key learnings and tools I took away, and how I prepared for the most intense ten days of my life.

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How BLIC is your life?

A friend of mine who knows a thing or two about wine recently explained how the experts assess quality using the BLIC test. It comprises Balance, Length, Intensity and Complexity. What if we could apply the same test to our lives?

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Who do you think you are?

What if you had a mirror that helped you more accurately see yourself as the world sees you? A lens that offered a glimpse into the workings and motivations of the people in your life. And a path for personal growth towards a more balanced and fulfilled life. How would it change the way you show up in your day to day life?

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Are you happy?

Are you happy? When a friend recently asked me this question, I had to consider how to respond. It’s a simple question but I have almost never been able to answer it with a clear “yes” or “no”, at least not without a preamble or explanation of some sort. What really is happiness? How does one find it, create it or hold on to it? And why as a society are we so obsessed with it?

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Seven Steps to Dealing with Rejection

No one really prepares us for rejection, other than life itself giving every one of us our own unique lesson in it. The simple act of selecting something or someone is in itself an implicit rejection of all else that was on offer. We could not function if it weren’t for our ability to choose. We experience rejection both explicitly and implicitly from the day we are born, and yet it is the one thing we dread most in our daily lives.

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The Dark Side of Gratitude: How It Can Hold You Back

The practice of gratitude is one of the most powerful ways of creating abundance in our lives. And yet, like most things, there is a duality to it, a dark side, that can hold us back. What are you grateful for today? Can you list five things each day that made you feel happy, safe, loved or valued? The practice of acknowledging the good things in your life is key to attracting more of them. The habit of expressing appreciation to those who bestow you with those good things is what keeps humanity going, despite all the challenges and negativity. And yet…

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The Essence of True Empowerment: Freedom vs. Independence

What really is the difference between independence and freedom, especially when it comes to individuals like you and me? Is it possible to have nothing, be at the mercy of others’ will and yet be free? And conversely, despite being independent, why do so many of us not feel free?

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Looking Back At “LOCKDOWN” From The Future

Whether you’re in full lockdown, self-isolating, or are one of our heroes on the frontline, this is a moment in human history that we will remember for a long time.It would be a shame to allow a crisis of such proportions to go to waste. What lessons can we learn and how do we want to look back on this extraordinary time in our lives? This is a unique opportunity to do a few things differently that in years to come we can look back on with pride and satisfaction.

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